Dear Ask Ashlee,
I'm a 22 yr old college student who recently met a 41 year old man on campus and we immediately took interest to one another. He is such a gentlemen and very intelligent, obviously being older than me he has a lot of wisdom. I haven't decided yet to completely open up myself to him yet because I am about 90% certain my family would be against us dating. As I stated before he is about 20 years older than me and he is only 6 years younger than my parents. Do you think I would be wrong to pursue a real relationship with him, or am I way in over my head? By the way, I love your column girl !
Dear PYT,
So here's the thing I think the better question for you to be considering right now is what is going to make you happy? Also, whose happiness is more important to you; you or your families? I am sure your parents will need to take some time to adjust to such a surprising relationship, but at the end of the day, all any parent wants is for their children to be loved and to be happy. If this man makes you feel this way then he is already a winner. If they don't believe that, then the more important thing for you to do is for you to stand on your own two feet and stand for yourself, your happiness and your life. If you are making a mistake, it is your mistake to make and you will learn and grow from it. Who knows, you could be making the best decision of your life! Just do me a favor and make this promise to yourself, do not lose yourself in this relationship, you are young which means there is still a lot of learning to do. You will grow and evolve many times throughout our life, if this man is the man for you he will accept that and nurture that growth!
I hope this helps!
Love & Light,
Ashlee